Until now, I can say that I lived in three different countries in three different ‘worlds’. I lived almost all my life in my home city, Tunis. I had my first and short stay of four month by my own in Mali (one of the poorest countries in the world). And lately, I just came back from more than a year spent doing my masters degree in London.

If I have to compare Bamako with London in terms of social relations, I would say and confirm that I never felt so lonely before going to live in Britain. I almost never feel lonely in Tunisia and enjoyed very much my life in Mali. I’ll spare you the reasons and the social analysis of the Londoners daily life (maybe I’ll do it another day) and I’ll tell you the ways I found to overcome this loneliness issue.

The first one was the meetups I found through the website http://www.meetup.com . In this website, very active especially in big cities like London, somebody can find anything (or anyone) he is interested in. From the singles gatherings to artists’ fan clubs or wine and dinners meetups, everything is there. I started just with some languages exchange meetups and international students’ gatherings always in pubs (bars). It was a good way to make friends …. but mainly foreigners. Don’t ask me where the real Londoners are, they have other interests.

The second solution was interesting at the social and the professional level. People that know me will guess that I speak about the charities. I started by joining YouthNet UK (http://www.youthnet.org) which is a charity providing software for other charities in order to manage their volunteers and volunteering opportunities. I was able to volunteer for them through two of their staff I’ve met in Tunisia (Thank you again Simon and Patrick). You see, it’s useful to have contacts 

After that, I joined also the British Computer Society (http://www.bcs.org.uk) thanks to my Nigerian colleague Boma who convinced me just by saying that all our lecturers are registered to this professional body. Later, I found it interesting but very serious for me until when I joined the Young Professional Group and I found myself in the “National Committee” helping with the students’ stream and attending the monthly or non-official meetings. I said once to one of the members “David” that what I enjoyed the most in these meetings is that nobody manages to speak slowly as do my lecturers. My English had no other choices than to improve to be able to understand their jokes. “Cheers mates!!!”.

The third solution was the CouchSurfing Community (http://www.couchsurfing.com). I’ll dedicate the next post to explain what it is.